成功關係背後的思維 - 蜜蜂 vs 蒼蠅

 成功關係背後的思維
The mindset behind successful relationship

有一個很好的比喻-關於蜜蜂和蒼蠅

There are a wonderful analog about the honeybee 

and the fly.

它給我們上了寶貴的一課，去改善人際關係及生活品質
It teach us a valuable lesson to improve our relation and quality of life.

蜜蜂從一朵花飛到另一朵花

Honeybee flies  from  flower to  flower.

只汲取蜂蜜而不干擾花朵

Extracting only nectar without  disturbing the flower.

蜜蜂的思維是去粹取朵花朵的精華

The mindset of honeybee is to seek the essence of each flower.

即使在一個充滿腐臭的地方也是如此

Even in a place a filled with rotted garbage.

而不是專注在污穢之物

rather then giving  attention  on the filth.

蜜蜂一直專注在尋找蜂蜜

It keep focus on finding the nectar.

它甚至急切地飛向千里之外垃圾車的一朵小花

It even eagerly flies to single tiny  flower 

amidst miles of garbage.

在我們的人際關係中，有很多可向蜜蜂學習的.

In our relationship,there are a lot to learn from honeybee.

它教會我們專注在正向思考

It teach us to focus on positive though.

並妥善地處理彼此的過失

And dealing propriately with the faults each other.

每一處 每一人 都會有缺點

There will be  faults everywhere and in everyone.

從來就不缺能抱怨的事

There is never shortage thing to complain about.

但就像蜜蜂尋找花蜜一樣

And just as the honeybee seek the nectar.

即使在最想不到的地方

Even in the unexpected place.

我們仍可致力於尋找正面的質量

We can aim to seek the positive quality around us.

蒼蠅代表著另一種思維

The fly represents another type of relationship mindset .

雖然每一種物種都值得被欣賞

Though each spiece are worth to be appreciated .

因為它們獨特的本能

For its particular instinctive nature.

我們仍然可透過研究來學習相關教訓

We still can learn some relative lesson through research.

來改善我們生活的品質

to improve the quality of  our own life.

在另一個健康的身體

On the otherwise healthy body,

蒼蠅更專注在吸取傳染性的結痂

The fly more focus on sucking the infectious scab.

蒼蠅可以飛越數百計的花朵

The fly can fly over hundreds of flowers.

但是它專注的是

But what does it focused on?

它專注在品嚐垃圾及排洩物

It focused on tasting garbage and excrement.

而忽略玫瑰園的芬芳及甜蜜香味

It ignore the sweet and fragrance of rose garden.

即使在最整潔乾淨的環境(情況）

Even in the clean circumstances and tidiest place.

蒼蠅仍會專注在垃圾

It will focus on the garbage.

這代表了我們忽視其他人優點的思維

It represent the mindset of ignoring other quality around us.

並專注在它們的缺點上

And focus on their faults.

它太容易去發現別人的缺陷和毛病.

It is so easy to find the flaw  of others.

It's so easy, it required no effort to find the flaw around us.

挑錯是一種習慣

Fault finding is a habit.

我們越投入它,就沈迷於它

The more we give into it,

the more we become obesssed by it.

在關係中，進行坦誠且善意的溝通是很重要的.

In relationship,it is important to be honest and well-wishing when communication. 

專注在欣賞正向的一面

Focus on appreciated the postive. 

並親切地及建設性地處理負面情緒.

And deal with the negative in the gracious and constructive manner.

嘗試彰顯彼此最好的一面

Try to bring out the best part in each other.

在這樣的過程中，我們認識到本身內在的正向質量

In doing so, we learn to recognize the postive quality 

Within  our own self.

並克服不健康負面的自尊

And overcome the unhealthy low self esteam.

蜂蜜思惟或蒼蠅思惟

Honeybee mentality or fly mentality

這選擇權在於你自己

The choice is in yours.